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- LETTERS, Page 6Adoption Quandary
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- As an infertile couple, my husband and I have frequently
- talked of adopting an older child (LIVING, Oct. 9).
- Unfortunately, infertility does not have as one of its side
- effects the instant attainment of the financial resources and
- emotional expertise needed to parent an abused or emotionally
- disturbed child. I have grown increasingly weary of the
- suggestion that infertile couples are coldly ignoring available
- older children while selfishly wanting to adopt an infant. Every
- one of us, even those with healthy fertility, has a
- responsibility to consider providing a home for children who
- have no permanent families.
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- Elizabeth S. Balsam Beaumont, Texas
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- White couples shouldn't be blamed for adopting a child from
- another country instead of a black American child. We tried to
- adopt in the U.S. and were repeatedly told by social services
- that black children and biracial children would not be placed
- with white couples. My argument that a white family must surely
- be better than no family at all was rebuffed with terms like
- "racial genocide" and "lack of native culture." Finally, after
- two frustrating years, we adopted a child from India. We have
- never felt guilty for going "to the ends of the earth" to find
- our wonderful daughter.
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- Nancy Lasher Cleveland Heights, Ohio
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